Jeff Levy, LCSW
Mental Health, Relationships, Trauma, Identity
1/6/2019 0 Comments I Should Be Feeling Better!Jeff Levy, LCSW (originally posted on Branching Out: The Live Oak Blog, June 2014) “I feel worse leaving this session than I did when I came in,” Paul said through tears in his eyes. “Therapy is supposed to make me feel better!” I don’t think this is helping me!”
“You’re supposed to know how to make this pain stop! You’re the professional. I pay you to help me,” were words Janice frequently shared with me when I failed to give an immediate answer to a question or responded to a question with “I don’t know.” “If you don’t know what’s best for me, how am I supposed to know what’s best for me?” I came to therapy to know how to have a better life and all you do is listen to me!” Jake said in frustration when he wanted to know how to handle a particular relationship. “I need a plan with specific action steps,” Alan said. “We should have operational objectives so that I know when we’ve achieved our plan. Sometimes I don’t even know what we’re working on.”
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1/6/2019 0 Comments When Will I Be Happy?Jeff Levy, LCSW (originally posted on Branching Out: The Live Oak Blog, January 2014) When will this be over? When will I stop dealing with this? Why does this keep happening to me? When will I finally be happy?”
These are some of the questions I am most frequently asked as people begin working with me. For those of us who have experienced loss, grief, and other forms of trauma, these questions may feel especially salient. And when we have engaged in multiple courses of therapy, our desire for final resolution may feel even more powerful. |
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